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A: No. You should not delay payment based on not having received a response from the ATO's STP service.
Q: What happens if a pay event is filed after the payment date? Will it be rejected by the STP service?
A: No, the record won't be rejected. There may be legitimate reasons for the late lodgement such as factors outside your control (e.g. ATO Web service down for maintenance). If it is genuinely late the ATO may flag it as a late lodgement to be followed up with you.
Q: Does the STP submission need to be acknowledged by the ATO before payment to the employees, or is the submission date being the same value sufficient?
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